Are you or someone you know at risk of suicide? Get the facts and take appropriate action.
If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal, you can get help by contacting Kean Counseling Center (KCC) at (908) 737-4850 or by stopping by the office in Downs Hall, Room 127; you do not need an appointment and will be attended to immediately. If the office is closed, please call 911 or Kean Police at (908) 737-4800. If you are a Kean student living in an on-campus residence hall, the resident assistant (RA) or resident director (RD) on duty may also provide assistance during an emergency.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
- A 24 hours/day, 7 days/week resource for anyone contemplating suicide. LIFELINE can be reached by dialing 1 (800) 273-TALK / 1 (800) 273-8255.
- En español: 1 (888) 628-9454.
- Veterans Crisis Line: 1 (800) 273-8255.
- “New Jersey’s 24/7 Peer Support and Suicide Prevention Hotline.”
- Specialists are available for confidential telephone counseling and support 24 hours/day, 7 days/week.
- Dial 1 (855) NJ-HOPELINE or 1 (855) 654-6735.
Be active in seeking professional help.
- If you are thinking about suicide, it is important that you clearly communicate your thoughts and/or intentions to end your life to someone.
- Let others know specifically that you are thinking about suicide (e.g., state, "I'm thinking about ending my life."); you may wish that others could figure it out on their own, but sometimes the signs are hard to decipher.
- Let someone know you are contemplating suicide even if you are feeling hopeless — give others the opportunity to intervene before it is too late.
Be Aware of Feelings
Many people at some time in their lives think about suicide. Most decide to live because they eventually come to realize that the crisis is temporary and death is permanent. On the other hand, people having a crisis sometimes perceive their dilemma as inescapable and feel an utter loss of control. These are some of the feelings and thoughts they experience:
- Can't stop the pain.
- Can't think clearly.
- Can't make decisions.
- Can't see any way out.
- Can't sleep, eat or work.
- Can't get out of depression.
- Can't make the sadness go away.
- Can't see a future without pain.
- Can't see themselves as worthwhile.
- Can't get someone's attention.
- Can't seem to get control.
If you experience these feelings, get help! If someone you know exhibits these symptoms, offer help!
What Are the Warning Signs for Suicide?
Seek help as soon as possible if you or someone you know exhibits any of the following signs:
- Threatening to hurt or kill oneself or talking about wanting to hurt or kill oneself.
- Looking for ways to kill oneself by seeking access to firearms, available pills or other means.
- Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide when these actions are out of the ordinary for the person.
- Feeling hopeless.
- Feeling rage or uncontrolled anger or seeking revenge.
- Acting reckless or engaging in risky activities — seemingly without thinking.
- Feeling trapped — like there's no way out.
- Increasing alcohol or drug use.
- Withdrawing from friends, family and society.
- Feeling anxious, agitated, or unable to sleep or sleeping all the time.
- Dramatic mood changes.
- Seeing no reason for living or having no sense of purpose in life.
What to Expect from Treatment
Once you decide to seek help, clearly communicate your thoughts and feelings to a professional who will determine the level of care needed. For Pratt students who seek assistance at Health and Counseling Services, this may include:
- Emergency follow-up appointments in Health and Counseling.
- Medication evaluation.
- Psychotherapy referral.
- Hospital assessment.
It is important that you follow up on treatment. If medication is prescribed, take it exactly as prescribed.
Ways to be Helpful to Someone Threatening Suicide
- Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
- Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
- Be nonjudgmental. Don't debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or whether feelings are good or bad. Don't lecture on the value of life.
- Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
- Don't dare him or her to do it.
- Don't act shocked. This will put distance between you.
- Don't be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
- Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
- Take action. Remove means, such as guns or stockpiled pills.
- Get help from persons or agencies specializing in crisis intervention and suicide prevention.
Be Aware of the Facts
- Suicide occurs across ethnic, economic, social and age boundaries.
- Suicide is preventable. Most suicidal people desperately want to live; they are just unable to see alternatives to their problems.
- Most suicidal people give definite warning signals of their suicidal intentions, but others are often unaware of the significance of these warnings or unsure what to do about them.
- Talking about suicide does not cause someone to become suicidal.
Suicide Prevention Helpful Links and Referrals
- National Institute of Mental Health.
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
- American Association for Suicidology.
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.
- Jed Foundation.
- half of us.
- The Transition Year.
Please note: The information above is not intended as a substitute for contact with a mental health professional. Inevitably, some of the information represents opinion. If you read information that raises concerns or questions, we invite you to come in to Kean Counseling Center in Downs Hall, Room 127.